A Liturgy for Loving Someone Who Doesn’t Love You Back
by Elizabeth Moore
Hello loves,
Elizabeth here, sharing a prayer that very much aligns with our theme of unrequited love. For anyone who has ever loved someone or something who doesn’t reciprocate your love in the same way, this liturgy is for you. I hope it comforts you, gives you words where you may have none, and strengthens you to love again. At the end, you’ll find a blessing of release from whomever or whatever you may be painfully parting from, and an invitation into beauty, healing, and wholeness, made possible only through heartbreak.
Be tender with your heart today.
A Liturgy for Loving Someone Who Doesn’t Love You Back Oh Lord, I have opened my soul to another whose desire is not for me. I have unlocked my heart only to have it explored and discarded. I have awakened to the melody of love only to find myself singing it alone. El Roi—God who sees— look upon me now, in the desert of my disappointment, in the valley of unrequited love, in the distance between myself and the one who has captivated my soul. You are intimately aware of the sting of this loss. I praise You for the one whom my heart is drawn to, for you created them beautifully and mysteriously complex. What a gift they are to the world and to me even though they are unable to love me the way I love them. I see who you have created them to be, and celebrate their future formation, even though I will not be there as they flourish into their becoming. Will you arise and comfort me, Oh Lord? Will you receive me into this lonely night? Be with me on my bed, as I think of the one I love. Be with me in the morning, when I awake alone. Be with me in the monotonous hours when I long for their presence, for the simple effortlessness of their companionship. Though this person will never know me the way I wish, Your piercing gaze is fixed on my heart. You run toward me with affection that never ends. Your desires for me outnumber the stars in the sky. Be for me the pure and loyal partner that they are not. Show me that there is no one else but You. Oh God, my faithful companion, my loyal lover, set me as a seal upon Your heart when my worldly lovers abandon me. I desire to share in the reciprocity of love, and the heart that I offer is valuable regardless of who does or does not desire it. Thank you that romantic love is a dim glimpse into the way you love me, into the way you desire a relationship with me, into the way you have sacrificed yourself in pursuit of my wellbeing. So I release my beloved with this blessing, and take hold of the hand of my Eternal Beloved: To the soul that I hoped would be mine, and to the hands that do not hold me the way I wish. To the current that draws you away from me, and to the path that I must continue down alone. To the life that awaits you, and to anyone who will accompany you in the future. To the years we will not share together, and to the lives we will never know. I bless you on your journey that will take you far from me. I release you without asking for answers, without needing the final word. I love you too deeply to wish you harm, and I leave you in the hands of God and others who will care for you in the ways I wish I could. God, go with me now as I turn in a new direction. Light up my path with new and wondrous things. With my broken heart tucked safely in the shadow of your wings, I lift up my eyes to a new and hopeful future. *An excerpt from Liturgies for Hope
xx Elizabeth